This article already starts off strong which I ADORE. In the first and second paragraph it starts off disputing the “BNWO slave” “Black woman worshiper” n “Inferior slave for black women” culture. It’s a common recurrence I have seen in the community where especially white people play the role that they support black women and black women sex workers ESPECIALLY in black history month but don’t do anything to support us at all. This writer/sw creator calls out the thing is black women see every march and talks about how it is for show. Which in my 3 years of being in CSW I have NEVER seen. Aside from posts on the timeline but we will get into that later with the author! I appreciate someone putting a mix of my thoughts, theirs, and others out there in the flesh.
“-collectively preach the same performative ass message of “We love you black woman!” Yet, NEVER putting your money where your mouth is.” Which we black female sex workers know way too much of.
They are more so calling out the paradoxical behaviors they (lowkey WE) see within the sex work community coming from other sex workers, our peers, our buyers, and our consumers. In the third article they talk about the platform “-Twitter used to be one of the most evidently accepted platforms for people in the SW community. No, this isn’t what Twitter is mainly used for, no promoting SW on Twitter isn’t entirely allowed, and NO you cannot just post porn and expect happy go rainbow sunshine results overnight.” They had talked about not only working your way around that but once you do it’s always about the community. Which is 1000% sure! Since I have been in the community and even before when I was just on twitter for my own thing, community had found me! I love my community and although I’m not as active as I used to be nor as much as I’d like to be, I still adore everyone who stops in, supports, and shows love. Without my community I wouldn’t have the platform that I do and I am extremely grateful for the ickies I got.
Next article they move into talking about different said communities and how if you’re apart of a community, from community to community, each one always the same end goal in mind. To me It’s always the newest relevant thing usually too. Whether it’s new fashion in the fashion X community, uplifting and positivity in the black X community, etc etc. “However when it comes to the community of sex work there is this divisiveness, this vast amount of disdain that us creators feel at the cost of our own autonomous freedom. Speaking for black creators specifically, everywhere we go, there is lies of “we support sex work”, posts mocking the rates of our success with how easy it was for them (NON POC creators) to make $100+ off the low effort, few month old selfie they just posted.” They had moved on to talking about how everywhere we (blk people) go, there are our white, non poc peers encouraging their buyers, their clientele to help grow, tip, support our content but can never show updates on if the work is actually done. They talk about how they never had planned to anyways because their intentions isn’t what they preach. “the intention behind the tweet is nothing but a selfless act of selfishness to make THEM look like the saint - the white savior on a day, a month that is meant to acknowledge US.” They had made point after point and had topped it off with “Instead of tweeting all day about how your fans need to support this specific list of black creators how about you send a tip to a black creator, post it, and then tell your fans to match that?” which made me π€π½! Hearing someone say what I couldn’t even find the words to say felt EMPOWERING to read and see on the screen.
Digressing though just as the author did because the issue, point, and blame isn’t the creators, the peers, the creators we meet along the way. Just like the author had said It’s YOU, the consumer, the buyer, whatever you prefer to call yourself. They had stated the ball has always been in your court and had talked about how “It is no secret that when it comes to porn, “Ebony” is globally one of the MOST searched term all across any 18+ site. Yet on sites like Pornhub, XNXX, XVIDS, RedGifs, etc if you were to type in ebony right now you’d get at LEAST the first page full of old amateur homemade videos, small clips up to a 1:30 long. After that, nothing but white girls milking the “BBC is better” rhetoric. The type of content doesn’t matter whether it’s amatuer or taboo nor does the platform whether it’s Pornhub or Twitter. What matters is that actual ebony creators are getting pushed to the side, sheltered from the reach of the ACTUAL target audience: Not viewers looking to get their nut off to the sight of a black dick alone. Not the ones who want to see ebony x bwc content, not the ones fetishising black bodies period. I’m talking about real lovers and worshippers of black people, real buyers of porn.” They had talked about their own view point and how they feel the target audience has always been people that look like us, adults that can see the representation in this field and know that we can have a place here, too. As well as, the target audience has always been for people that actually find black (in its entirety) powerful, meaningful. Sexy, not sellable. Which everything I couldn’t agree more with the further I’ve fell into the community. At first sales were harder because I wasn’t trying to sell to people who look like me or actually find black to BE sexy. I was selling to simply the first person in my dms because I wasn’t trying excited for a sale. the excitement had worn off when I really felt the realization of “I’m a afrolatina plus size-mid sized nonbinary afab.” It’s like going to an almost all white collage and trying to find your people somewhere in the mix all over again lmfao.
They had talked about how there IS absolutely power in any and everything black. In our clothes, bodies, art, music, hair, each and all of it. “There’s a power, a hunger in it all. ESPECIALLY black women. And It takes an open mind, a non-ignorant mind to understand that. When we, as black women talk about things like having an invisible, unmatched, unshakeable power at all times, and how it is important for men to understand, cherish, and value that in the sex work community, people’s first immediate process is to think about the white man.” They had explained their view point as a financial dominatrix and how them personally doesn’t discriminate. And how they want my worship to come from all places of the world, as it should be, which I personally agree with as well. I want my clientele to be as diverse as it can get. They had went into explaining why the reason why everyone’s first process is to think of a white man “- because everyone knows “nice guys finish last”. He is the only one that is (without disrespecting her) putting in the work. He’d understand the differences in the privileges we’ve experienced and not use them as a manipulation tactic. He’d understand that as black women, regardless of whatever space we’re in, we have to work 10x more harder, be 20x more likeable, be 50x more accessible, and be 100x more strategic than his white peers of the opposite sex. NO, this is NOT ALL white men who are subs, or financial supporters of sex work in any shape or form. Because at the end of the day, there are other types of men who will come into our DMS begging us dommes and other POC creators to allow them the permission to worship us as black women, but when we tell them our time isn’t free, it’s silence.” They had stated that it could just be a funny trend or inside joke but went on to say us black women sex workers ARE TIRED. WE are tired. “-Tired of being told to work more for less, tired of being told it’s okay because we’re “strong, independent, black women.” I think I speak for everyone here when I say we are tired of being “strong” for accepting to be continuously looked over. Not just by the algorithm of these social media platforms, but self-proclaimed “fans” as well.”
I had to add in each of there examples too that people had posted because I felt each and every bit of what everyone had said. It fills me with a different type of happiness seeing other creators, consumers, etc speaking on this and shining light on it.
“FLAVRDBLECHH - TWITTER/X: “The idea of acknowledging black/POC creators once a year has always made me very upset especially as a woman who is Afro Latina. I am one of those girls who was brought up in the Deep South - being told I wasn’t black enough to be apart of community but not light enough to be seen as white. A lot of people who are not familiar with that side of this platform don’t know how uplifting that community can be and it’s so sad. A lot of the women and men here only see what the algorithm allows them to see so if they have only ever interacted with white creators all they will ever see is white creators.”
JAKEO423 - TWITTER/X: “Talking to a woman of color once a year to make yourself and your page look good like you interact with the black community is weird behavior and lowkey racist. This is the same thing as growing up in a white community and having a “token black friend” in your group but still cracking racists jokes, but then saying ‘but you’re different’ - I like you, just not your community as a whole”
LOCALANGELLL - TWITTER/X: “They’re activism is performative as fuck. First day of Black History Month, getting tagged in hella threads telling people to tip me and after that it’s crickets. I genuinely had one white sex worker tip me. The rest of the month it’s crickets from them.”
SIN4SATIVA - TWITTER/X: “There’s never an even playing field with white dommes. Never feeling truly appreciated, even during what is supposed to be OUR month of celebration. We all preach how grateful we are to be women of color, and find community in that, only to be either ignored a majority of the time, or be blasted with fake allegiance for a singular moment. Only for the white woman to blow up and do tremendous numbers compared to that of a black creator for acting sanctimonious without truly doing any of the work to support their black peers. It’s all just a performative, engagement farming tactic that they use as advantageous to their image, once a year. Something needs to change.
DR34MIII - TWITTER/X: “I’ve been in this industry almost 7 years now and I’ve seen how much harder black sex workers work, {me} being the greatest example. Things are very rigged here. A lot of creators use BHM to virtue signal and then ignore the struggles black people and SWs overall face the moment they’re done with their fake shoutout posts, Black sex workers are the backbone of every trend and especially inside of this industry.”
ER0TIC_CHA0S - TWITTER/X: “When it comes to my experience as a black sex worker (Financial Dominatrix) I am extremely disappointed and disgusted by submissives and customers in this realm. Of course, there are those that truly understand the importance of devoting themselves to black women, yet many treat black women as a fetish category and nothing more. They consume ebony content for the month of February and then abandon their performative devotion as soon as March starts” “
Moving forward they speak on the algorithm and how everyone is aware it’s suckie but everyone also knows that YOU CREATE your own algorithm. YOU are mapping out what you want to see with every like, comment, follow etc. Their point is that others love to get upset with us for complaining about the lack of engagement, financial support, etc. when the reality is it still isn’t our fault but still yours. “-Why are you following black creators when majority of your page is dedicated to white sex workers? We are not your fetish, your one night stand nor your last option when Becky with the good hair isn’t available. This isn’t just with fans, but engagement groups as well. You have creators making group chats with the intention to boost everyone’s content, yet there is rarely any racial diversity and it’s always full of backhanded community. You get put into a groupchat with the same creators you are unconsciously “competing” with, creators who don’t even NEED the extra engagement, but will happily participate anyways if it means drowning out lower numbered creators with their big following peers. At the end of the day, everyone gets to choose. And the people who claim to support us oh so dearly actively, willingly, consistently, CHOOSE to skip over us and our hard work. And for what? What do you REALLY gain from being like the rest? Because no one is congratulating you, praising you for being a leech.”
They had explained having that mindset gets you nowhere within the community. ESPECIALLY on Twitter. Lurkers, time wasters, and it’s bound to happen. “-We’re all aware, and some of us have come to accept that it’s just the way things are; it’s out of our control. What IS in our control is how we continue to allow these fist fuckers to access us. If you, as a consumer, know damn well you’re following consists of nothing but white creators and very few black creators, and you know damn well you have no intention of financially supporting, unfollow them. Immediately. Expeditiously. You are waisting the time of a creator who’s probably in the sex work community to survive and you think retweeting her content to your funky ass 100 followers who don’t even engage with you on a regular basis is helping her? She’s about to be homeless and you think shouting her out with 10 other creators is gonna help her? you’re fucking delusional. There’s too much speaking, not enough spending.”
They had said it perfectly leading with THERE IS TOO MUCH SPEAKING, NOT ENOUGH SPENDING. They had talked about dragging BHM into March: Melanin March. (Hence title!). They had spoke about the behavior that has been shown this year both within the sex work community and outside of it, as far as global, real world issue, it’s disgusting, unacceptable. “You cannot tweet about how you love black creators and then DO NOTHING to show for it - put it in the fucking work. - I promise Sarah isn’t gonna get mad. After all, the fuck is she even here for? When she’s a nepo baby who came from financial stability, owns a business (w/o the help of sw, mind you), and this is just her side hobby. STOP turning the other cheek and a blind eye to creators who NEED the support. And stop pocket watching them when it comes to showing said support either. “Oh the post was made 3 hours ago, surely somebody took care of it” newsflash: YOU DON’T KNOW THAT! To think that numbers like followers, views, rt equate to the financial stability of the creator is close minded and ignorant as fuck. Until you see a tweet that says “GOAL COMPLETED” you should be pulling EVERY dollar out of your pocket to help the creator your balls are so eager to empty themselves for. it’s more than just common courtesy and “the right thing to do” it’s common fucking sense. Take your ass to the Pornhub, Xhamster, the sites that are MADE for free porn. Twitter is NOT 100% free porn. If that’s what you’re looking for, you need to be following dedicated porn pages and porn pages ONLY.” The fact I’ve constantly seen wealthy white sex workers and yet not a single one of them supporting black women let alone a retweeting a black womens post but will post the 3 second clip of “BBC” from a random porn clip page during BHM really hits in a different way. The fact that I’ve had reassuring clients who ONLY repost white sex workers but they claim to “want a big black queen” but can’t even pay for a pair of pleasure heels and continue to try to get me to go down on prices. My time isn’t a gamble nor a joke which they try to make it seem like to us black sex workers.
“LUXEHIPPI - TWITTER/X: “What’s posted for free on Twitter and other platforms is there for you to consume because the creators who posted it are consenting to that. Buying content doesn’t make you a loser, but assuming you’re entitled to free content or something further just because a creator posted some promo is a misunderstanding of consent and a reluctance to accept the fact that you have to pay for further access DOES in fact make you a fucking loser. None of you are entitled to the bodies that you love to goon to. It’s a privilege to be able to scroll your feed and see all that you do. Pay your favorite creators if you want them to stick around.” “
They had ended it perfectly stating that understand that the content you see on Twitter is not to appease you. It is to PROMOTE the REAL porn we create behind our paywalls. Saying If you feel so entitled to that, again take your ahh to the sites and dedicated pages for leeches who have nothing better to do than fuck their fist. Black creatives have spent too much time trying to appease followers and leeches who hesitate when it comes to us but will proudly pour into the next. They had stated making these self proclaimed “BBW Worshipers” etc approach that they WILL be making you put your money where your mouth is and if you can’t do that to gtfo. Which I agree that we SHOULDVE been doing from the jump. They stated it perfectly again stating for EVERYONE in the back that we spend too much time being walked over outside in the real world, it’s not fair that we have to experience this systemic racism EVERYWHERE we go, especially in a place that’s supposed to be considered “liberating” “empowering” “autonomously free”. They had wrapped it with FINANCIALLY SUPPORT BLACK SWs OR SHUT THE FUCK UP. I adored this blog up to down and every part it stands for. I’m hoping to see more like this from this writer in the future ESPECIALLY about this topic. Each part they hit on was beyond accurate and once again I’m just happy to see someone putting words to my thoughts I’ve been thinkin from day one.
I also wanted to take the time as well to talk about my own experience as a afrolatina sex worker who is fluctuates between midsized-plus sized. Being in the community has always been survival, as a survival sex worker for 90% of the time I’ve been in the community, I’ve seen everything from the “BBW worshipers”, to the “Tip @___ for bhm! Show love!” And not seeing ANY amount of support, to the weird yt only skinny only sw based group chats only for 4k+ followers. Shit I’ve even seen a hella switch when I had gained weight and was considered more plus size then mid sized. Literally got over 100 followers lost over my weight gain. it’s hard already being black in the community. But being plus size-mid sized it feels like a bigger target is on your back. It makes the work feel harder. It’s been TIRING seeing it and even more tiring feeling alone. I’m happy to see this author be a voice to the black women of the sw community. we aren’t alone. FINANCIALLY SUPPORT BLACK SWs OR SHUT THE FUCK UP. !
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